Sixes, the Loyalists, are engaging and responsible. Once they trust you, they will follow you to the ends of the earth. When they’re healthy, Sixes are excellent troubleshooters, the bedrocks of their communities, and show us an example of God’s faithfulness and courage.
Loving a five is not easy – I’m not going to lie! We understand this and we wish we were a little easier to love. As with most things, we are keenly self-aware. We see and feel the awkwardness just like you do. To be honest, our entire lives have felt like a constant game of “which of these does not match the others?” It’s us! We get it. And to love us well, we need you to get it, too. Don’t try to fix us or imply we need to be fixed. Don’t convince us we can (or should) have more fun. And don’t just put up with us or count us out.
Type Fives are perceptive, innovative, and cautiously tactical with their time. Whereas most people can easily replenish their energy supply, Fives begin the day much like a cell phone with only 20% battery supply. As such, Fives are much more conscious of how their energy is spent. When they’re growing in alignment with the gospel, Fives show us God’s wisdom and truth.
I’ve put off writing this for some time now because, on paper at least, it would seem that a Type Four is probably the hardest type to love - which I believe is not true. The goal of this is not to sound emotionally heavy, but I think that loving a Type Four starts with understanding the parts of us that can certainly seem that way.
Type Fours are expressive, dramatic and individualistic. If you’re not sold on Enneagram because you think it boxes people in, there’s a chance you might be a Four. Because above all else, Fours fear lacking personal significance and unique identity. In a place of health and spiritual maturity, Type Fours show us God’s creativity and depth.