Read: “Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19
On Sunday, Jeff Clark gave us six keys for how God intended married couples to enjoy sex. If you’re married, work with your spouse to implement these together. If you’re not married yet, think about how you can continue investing in your own spiritual foundation, so that you can one day reap the full blessing of a marriage devoted to Christ.
If we don’t have patience before we get married, it won’t magically develop after we are married. Patience takes work. When we develop patience to save sex for marriage, we are able to enjoy sex fully in the way God intended.
Before Solomon ever touched his new bride, he romanced her. He described her beauty and put her at ease. Men, women need to be romanced, to see your gentle side before they’re in the mood.
Just because sex is tender, doesn’t mean that it’s not also passionate. Solomon and his bride were ready to go, as Lionel Richie sang, “All Night Long.” Women, men thrive when you bring passion into your marriage.
Sex is vulnerable. We leave ourselves naked, in both a physical and spiritual sense. Your spouse has to know that the bedroom is a place where they will always be safe, and treated in a patient, tender and passionate way.
When sex is saved for marriage, it becomes a profound act. It allows a couple to know each other fully, as they seek to draw closer to each other and to Christ.
6. The Gospel
God makes all things new. No matter what your past sex life looks like, God is ready with grace and forgiveness, and a chance to begin again in the way that He designed.
If you’re dating, set guardrails now. Ask God to give you the patience that you need to save sex for marriage. If you’re married, look for ways to love your spouse tenderly, with respect and honor. If you’ve been married for a while, step up your dating and shake up the routine. See what can happen when you make passion a goal.
Pray: God, thank you for the gift of sex. Help me work on myself and my relationship so that my life honors You in every way. In Jesus’ name, Amen.