Read: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8
Another way to intentionally throw a few new logs onto the fire of your marriage is by spending quality time together. If you’re a parent, you know that the idea of meaningful quality time can seem like a herculean task. But, spending quality time together doesn’t have to mean finding an entire weekend to get away, or hiring a babysitter for an expensive date night. (Don’t get us wrong, date nights are great, and we think you all deserve many more.) But, what do you do when the kids go to bed (if they’re young,) or before they wake up (if they’re older?) Do you default to Netflix, or scrolling through social media on your phone?
This week, keep the electronics OFF, and spend some quality time together. If you’re thinking “well that sounds good and all, but my free time without the kids is the only chance I get to do things around the house,” then turn that into quality chore time together. Why not?! Wash the dishes while the other one dries. Fold that big pile of laundry - together.
As you’re spending time together, make an effort to really talk to each other. More than the rote “how was your day,” ask questions that help you get to the heart of your spouse. “What am I doing well?” “Where can I do a better job of meeting your needs in our marriage?” “How can I help you?” These questions can be scary at first, because they require vulnerability followed by the real test of our actions. And here’s a helpful side note: now is not the time to jump in with a list of complaints and nitpicks you’ve been collecting since your last fight. Take time to pray for each other, let your spouse know what you’ve been reading in your Bible lately, and ask God to help you both come to know the other in a deeper, more complete way.
Pray: God, help me get to the heart of my spouse. As everything else is vying for my attention, let me be intentional in spending quality time with them. Allow me to be vulnerable as I ask how I can be a better spouse. Bless my spouse with more than they could ever ask for. In Jesus’ name, Amen.