Read: “Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior. But now he has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy in his sight, without blemish and free from accusation—” Colossians 1:21-22
When we find our self-worth in others, we will constantly be on edge - afraid to disappoint or let anyone down, afraid to be disliked. So what do you do when you realize that you can’t please everyone? Do you just surrender to the idea that life wille be an unending cycle of defeat? No - you remember God’s truth and discover how to break free of the approval addiction through reconciliation with Christ.
Reconciliation happens when people who were formerly enemies become friends. Trapped in a life defined by sin, we were once enemies of God, but when we surrender our will to follow Him, we become co-heirs with Christ (Romans 8:17). It is then that we can seek our approval in God who we have been reconciled with through Christ. When we find our approval in Christ, we don’t need to look for our self-worth in people anymore; we are made complete in Him. He knows us fully, knows our weaknesses and our capability to fail, but because of His character, we can find peace and rest in our knowing that His love for us will never fail.
If you find yourself falling back into the habits of an approval addict, remind yourself of who you are in Christ with the following truths: God is patient and kind (Psalm 86:15). God is never rude, nor is He self-seeking (1 Corinthians 13:5). God keeps no score of wrongs (Psalm 103:12).
Pray: God, thank you for accepting me and loving me. Help me fully find my approval in You instead of in people. When I begin to slip back into old habits, thank you for forgiving me, and remind me of Your truths. In Jesus’ name, Amen.