Do Not Continue in Guilt and Shame

Do Not Continue in Guilt and Shame

Author: Cody Smith
Feb 5, 2024 | Psalm 51

Begin with 2 minutes of stillness and silence before God.

Psalm 51 is a very well-known and popular psalm within the Bible. To get the full picture, it helps to understand the backstory to this Psalm, written by King David. To get the full story we have to go back to 2 Samuel 11-12. In a nutshell, King David sees a beautiful woman named Bathsheba bathing at night when he should have been with his men out in battle. What unfolds after this is a terrible sequence of events, as things go from bad to worse.

King David sleeps with Bathsheba, who is married; she becomes pregnant, and he tries to find a way to cover this up. When that doesn't work, he devises another plan to have her husband killed in battle. Unfortunately, he succeeds and then marries Bathsheba. Time goes by, and for a moment, you can imagine that David felt he got away with it. But fortunately, he didn't. God's love for David was far too great to let him sit in his guilt and shame.

On the outside, things probably looked pretty good as far as others could tell for David. He went on to rule the kingdom, business as usual, but on the inside, his guilt and shame probably felt like he was rotting from the inside out. So, God sent the prophet Nathan to call him out publicly for his great sins, which ultimately led to the death of Bathsheba's child. And thus, this is the backdrop to Psalm 51.

It's probably a good time to dive a little bit deeper into what guilt and shame are. Guilt is a subconscious confession that you are not forgiven. Shame is a subconscious confession that you are what you are ashamed of. And God, in His great mercy and love, would not let David continue in guilt and shame, two things that he was never created for. Two things that over time start to warp who you think you are and the lens you see life through.

And look at the language that David uses in the 51st Psalm:

"Completely wash away my guilt and cleanse me from my sin."

So what did God do? He made a way for David to come back to the only person who could fully wash and cleanse him. And then look what David says next:

"Purify me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow."

"God, create a clean heart for me and renew a steadfast spirit within me."

Look at the language he uses. "I will be clean. I will be whiter than snow." This has identity written all over it. This is David stepping away from the identity of guilt and shame of what he did, and stepping into the identity of what God could do to make him a new creation, to cleanse him of all unrighteousness, to make him right in the sight of his God. It was true for David, and it's especially true for us today through what Jesus did on the cross. You see, Jesus didn't just die for our sins so that we could be forgiven. He washed us clean. He gave us a new heart and a completely new identity in Him.

Colossians 1:21-23 tells us that we were once hostile in our minds and that was expressed through our evil actions. But Jesus has reconciled us to the Father through his death on the cross, to present us as holy, blameless, and above reproach in God's sight. That is how God sees you through the blood of Christ. That is your new identity. That is where we get to start our race as Christians. But there's a catch, and that catch is in verse 23. It basically says if you believe that to be true, that you are holy, blameless, and above reproach in His sight, then that reality is yours, and you'll be able to live that out. Otherwise, you'll believe you are what you've done or what's happened to you, with the guilt and shame that comes along with it.

So what do we learn from all this? We learn that guilt and shame grow in silence. When David's sins were finally made known, healing began. When David was able to confess his sins to God, healing continued. And when David declared the washing and cleansing that can only come from God, freedom took place.

For you, if you find yourself in a place of feeling guilt, shame, and condemnation, whether from things you've done or things that have happened to you, and you can't see yourself for how God sees you, holy, blameless, and above reproach in His sight, step into a Care Group this semester. Step into a group that will support you so that guilt and shame can no longer grow and have a place to call home. Join a healthy environment where you can find the courage and boldness to step into a fulfilled relationship with Christ. Join a Care Group and begin to experience freedom from those things you were never made for.

Take 2 minutes to reflect in silence.
Reflection: 
  • How can understanding the story of David and Bathsheba, and the subsequent Psalm 51, help me deal with my feelings of guilt and shame? What steps can I take to begin healing and finding freedom from these burdens?
  • In what ways can I incorporate the lessons of forgiveness and new identity in Christ, as illustrated in Psalm 51 and Colossians 1:21-23, into my daily life and interactions with others?
  • How can participating in a supportive community, like a Care Group, aid in transforming my perspective from seeing myself through my past actions to seeing myself as God sees me - holy, blameless, and above reproach - and what impact might this have on my spiritual and emotional well-being?
  • Prayer: Heavenly Father, in the quiet of this moment, I come before You, carrying the weight of my guilt and shame. Like David, I acknowledge my shortcomings and the ways I have fallen short of Your glory. Lord, Your Word in Psalm 51 reminds me of the power of Your forgiveness and the depth of Your mercy. I ask You to create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Thank You for the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross, which has washed me clean and given me a new identity in Him. As Colossians 1:21-23 declares, I am no longer defined by my past errors but am reconciled to You, holy, blameless, and above reproach in Your sight. Help me to grasp this truth, not just with my mind, but with my heart. Guide me to a community of believers where I can grow and heal. In the fellowship of others, let me find the courage and boldness to share my struggles and discover the freedom You offer. May I not only receive this healing but also extend Your grace and forgiveness to those around me. Lord, let my life be a testament to Your unending grace. May I walk in the newness of life You have granted me, reflecting Your love and light to others. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

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